Envy is the cause of a person’s greed. The problem with most people they are never satisfied. That’s why they never stop getting what they want.
Specifically, with money, this is one of the most common things that people have to deal with.
Nowadays, money became one of the basic needs. We cannot deny how money can make the world go round. Having money makes you want more of it.
“Greed isn’t about a financial issue, it’s a heart issue”. – Andy Stanley
Living is not easy, that’s why most people think that money can solve their suffering. Yes, with money you can buy the things you need, with money you’ll become powerful and successful and so you could live happily ever after – that’s the reality of life. However. it doesn’t mean it can buy Life.
Life is about having true happiness, and true happiness is priceless.
True happiness comes from the heart. Not from material things.
I guess that’s why people develop the “Love of Money”. [Slow clap]
Have you ever experience true happiness in life?
If you’re envious because of money, I doubt it.
We are living inside a needy world full of temptation. We cannot take away the fact that money plays the biggest part of our lives. Therefore, we technically develop earthly feelings such as envy and no matter how I see it, being envious can ruin a person’s life; his relationship, career, and integrity, even his way of thinking.
Guess what? we can never stop this feeling…now and then we will have to deal with this kind of emotional issue, but we will always have a choice of how to react to it.
Here are 3 powerful ways how to deal with envy…
1. Always ask yourself, WHY?
The most important thing to do while dealing with a poisonous emotion is to know your intentions.
Why money is a big deal for me? Why do I need more money? Why am I being envious? Why am I feeling this way?
I’ve been watching the news recently, and I noticed that most crimes nowadays involve money. A woman got stabbed to death just to get her bag. A family was killed inside their own house, for robbery. People, most of the time, are being brought up with the fact that money can solve everything. Regardless of why they did such a thing; the main reason would be poverty.
A high level of envy can be found in those who experience poverty or difficulties. Simple feeling that can possibly result in a hilarious crime. Envy is a belief that you lack something and you have to do everything to have it. That’s why we impulsively take action to achieve it.
I believe that everything has a reason. Being envious is a strong negative emotion that could poison our minds without realizing it. In money, the good reason comes with good intentions. When you ask yourself why make sure to be true to yourself. If your motives are clear, guilt will automatically come out in its own way. Remember, guilt can decide even in the hardest decision of our lives.
When your guilt speaks, listen to it. Regardless of who you are, the money will always be part of your needs. That’s why you always have to listen to your guilt.
When I was studying in college, my mom was working regularly but her salary was just enough for our everyday living; enough to pay the monthly electric bill, water bill, and the food we eat. In short, money used to be enough just for our needs. Growing up is hard, without money it’s really hard to achieve your dreams. There was a time that I wasn’t able to pay my tuition fee to the fact that I didn’t have a chance to take my midterm exam. It was really upsetting. I got really envious of other students, including my friends. That was the first time I started to ask myself why am I being like this?
That time, I am pretty sure it’s because of money. When I ask myself why my motives became clear. My guilt came on its way and gave me a chance to decide between two options. Right or Wrong. At the same time, I got the privilege to ask myself a follow-up question, “What am I going to do about it?” And then, I decided to be a working student until I graduated.
2. Learn to be COMPASSIONATE
Some people who have problems with money are having a hard time being compassionate most of the time. To tell you the truth, it is really hard to be compassionate when you’re in the midst of suffering.
Try not to look at other people, look at yourself. We all have desires and it’s a normal emotion that human beings have to deal with but it’s very important to know if these things are reasonable enough for us to tolerate. The more you look away and see other people, the more you are moving away from the real desire your heart.
Try seeing yourself on other people shoes, how are they feeling. And before your greed consumes you, try to picture things on their perspective, how would they feel when something bad happen. If you learn to be compassionate, you’ll learn to manage your greed.
3. Count the things you already have that money cannot buy.
Focus on great moments to share with people not planting negative emotions towards them.
Envy can result in serious behavioral issues, unfriendliness toward people that can create gaps between you and them. Learn to live life with guilt, content, and selflessness.
The biggest treasure in life is not the things that you can put a price on, it is the Life itself and the life of the people around you. You just have to remind yourself every now and then.
There is nothing wrong to pursue money but you should learn to embrace it by having a goal not only for yourself.
And that’s how I think you can stop being envious and start becoming genuinely happy.